TAG 6- Q & As

There you go people…. Another tag on your way… the fellow who tagged me is a real sweetheart (ahh Rohit! I know you’re blushing now) so am gonna try and make my answers sound kinda cool… ahh man! Like yeah…. Totally!

1. Pick out a scar you have, and explain how you got it. – Ooooooh! How I wish I had a scar which looks like a lightening bolt (o.k. no more of Potter I solemnly swear ;) )

well being one of the clumsiest freaks who ever walked on this planet, I have lost count of my scars but the first ever scar is the one I got on my left arm, and it’s in the shape of a “rajma”, got it because of an injection… was a baby then, it’s the kinda scar which most of you have

2. What does your phone look like? – Well I have got a Nokia 5300 Xpress Music, and the cool bit is it’s color i.e. all black, and not the usual red/blue/grey and white combo…

the thing is initially I had the red and white model but the damn thing got stolen and well then I wanted a Nokia N76 but obviously why would my parents buy me that right after I have lost my brand new cell???…..so then I got the same model but in a different color

3. What is on the walls of your bedroom? – hmmm this is gonna take some time; well I have pictures but then that’s basically on my bulletin board and that’s on my wall….so whatever, ohh the pictures are basically of my childhood, my parents, college, drama ( on stage stuff), Huggies( my sweetheart!), then I have posters of Harry Potter, Orlando Morrison, some quotation posters, the usual “rules of my room” and “do not disturb” stuff on the door and o’course a calendar and ohh yea… I put up these hand prints in different colors and they look awesome!

4. What is your current desktop picture? – It’s a picture taken during Players@50 celebrations… it helps keep those fantastic moments alive!

5. Do you believe in gay marriage? – What do you mean believe?? I think it’s absolutely normal, and I would say “believe” is too meek a word, I totally support it!

6. What do you want more than anything right now? – Gosh! I am a total moron; so basically I want a lot of things right now; most importantly I just wanna ace in English Hons….but then that’s not something I want this very moment it’s pretty much gonna be there till am at least done with my M.A and also be a really major part of Players. …..hmmm so talking about instantaneous wishes; I wanna snuggle up with my guy with some dark chocolate and not worry about all sorts of work piled up on my head

7. Are your parents still together? – Yes

8. Last person who made you cry? – Don’t really care and don’t wanna remember either, hell with that bastard/bitch anyway

9. What is your favorite perfume/cologne? – I am a total sport brand addict so Adidas and Nike take the top spots …….ohh wait…. I am talking about deos, I don’t really use perfumes because they are bloody expensive and I don’t find their essence that strong either

10. What are you listening to? – You mean right this every moment??? I am listening to “She will be loved” Maroon 5

11. Do you get scared of the dark? – Well not when I am at my place…otherwise usually yea… shit scared!!

12. Do you like pain killers? – Like??? Hmmm the only painkillers I take on regular basis for my cramps are homeopathic and they are kinda chewy and powdery …so yea I like them!

13. Are you too shy to ask someone out? – Really don’t know about that… but what I can say is; I am not shy when it comes to making someone ask me out *evil grin*
14. If you could eat anything right now, what would it be? – Chocolate… yumm…

15. Who was the last person who made you mad? – Dad, how boring can you be really!

16. Who was the last person who made you smile? – Mum, she always knows what to say and more importantly what not to say

17. Is someone in love with you? *blush-smile-blush again-make dreamy faces* - love with me… you bet……Awwwww now I miss him even more…!

Tagging on ;- Aditya-high time you update your blog, Ashish, Nishi, Tania and Kriti

THE WEDDING RING

( I HAVE WRITTEN THIS IN FIRST PERSON AS I USUALLY DO, THIS IS SOMETHING SHARED BY ONE OF MY COUSINS )

In the middle school creative writing class, our teacher gave assignments designed to make students think about the details of life and I’ve found that these produce the best writings. We make use of each of their senses as well as to get to the heart of things, for some of my classmates; those voices express certain sentiments that desperately need an outlet.

One day, she asked the students to describe an object and its particular significance to them personally. Next day on the bus to school all of us sat discussing what we are going to write about, however one of my friends, Shirley Matthews declared she ain’t doing it

Now I knew Shirley well, we spent are junior years together, she was an excellent writer, so this statement surprised me, I looked at her for a moment, her attitude of defiance was completely uncharacteristic, I didn’t press on as I thought she would gradually change her mind, when I saw later that day, she was still hell bend on not doing it, something in her voice made me ask her what this is all about. “Are you having trouble picking an object or what?”

She was quite for a moment and then said, “No. last night I told my mum about the assignment, she said she had an idea of something special for me to write about, she took me to her room, she opened her jewellery box, I thought she’s gonna show me some pair of earrings that belonged to my grandma, I was already thinking; oh this is gonna be easy” she stopped for a moment, I could she that she was having a hard time with her next thoughts

“But she didn’t give me a piece of my grandma’s jewelry. She took out the wedding ring my father had given her and handed it to me.”

I thought for a minute, I remembered from conferences that Shirley’s parents had different last names, but her stepfather was always interested in her progress and as proud of her achievements as her mother, and Shirley seemed so well adjusted that I never had any reason to assume differently. But the teenager in front of me was miserable, “how could she have kept the ring? How could she want me to have it?” she began to cry “they got divorced when I was a baby, I don’t even know how he looks like, and I hate him! I don’t want the stupid wedding ring!

Shirley’s anger was acute; I asked gently, “what did you do then?”

“I threw the ring as hard as I could against the wall. It made a mark and fell behind the dresser and I ran to my room and slammed the door shut. My mom didn’t yell at me or anything. She didn’t even make me move the dresser to get the ring.”

Wise woman .I thought

“You don’t have to write about the ring.” I said. “You know you can choose anything you want, don’t you?” even as I said it, I knew that Shirley had, in fact, wanted to talk if not write about that ring, I knew that all the rage and frustration of an abandoned child were symbolized in that ring, but am not an psychologist and certainly not her mom, it wasn’t my place to force her to express painful feelings.

That night Shirley’s mom called me up, and she asked whether Shirley had discussed something about the ring, I thought as her mom she had the right to know, so I told her about it, she thanked me for letting her know . Then she said “I knew it she would have told you” every mom has superpowers to get these things right I guess! “I didn’t realize how angry she is- not just at her father, but at me also. But, I kept that ring to remind me of the good times in my marriage- there were good times.” She paused and then said softly, “if I hadn’t married him, I wouldn’t have Shirley.”

I had no idea how to react to what her mom was telling me; I mean I am just an adolescent;

“Tell her” I said

The next day, I waited anxiously for Shirley, her feelings were understandable. But, I hoped that the obvious love between mother and daughter would help her deal with her feelings.

Shirley smiled at me when she came in. she said, “I’m a little sore today.” She winked, “I moved some heavy furniture last night.”

I smiled back; I was tempted to make some comment about weights being lifted, but then she handed me a composition and said “submit my essay will you” and left

Her essay about the wedding ring was short. Shirley wrote: “things are just things- they have no power to hurt or to heal. Only people can do that. And we can all choose whether to be hurt or healed by the people who love us.”

That was all

That was everything.

THE SAME OLD STUFF:-OF LOVE AND RELATIONSHIPS

So it's been quite a while since I've written anything on here. I think I've said that before so I'm not going to make a follow-up joke about it because I have a feeling I'll be repeating myself. And if there's one rule I follow while writing, it is not repeating a joke. Another rule I follow is writing long unpunctuated sentences which have no real meaning and add nothing to the premise of what I intend to convey in the next few paragraphs which basically means I'm just fucking with anyone who is reading this right now. Sorry. .....

My friend and I were talking about relationships yesterday because we were excruciatingly bored and had no life whatsoever at the time. So I was telling her how you have to work at relationships, at least the serious ones. Everything does not just fall into place. Unless you're in a Hindi movie. And even there you have angry rich dads who do not think that your ability to sing songs in different voices, and dance in co-ordination with 30 guys you don't know behind you is impressive enough. Anyway she seemed to primarily catch onto the "relationships....at least the serious ones" part. Her inexplicable reply was, "But any relationship is a serious one...otherwise its a fling". After being momentarily shocked by her naivety, I told her it just does not work like that. It's not "Enter coin. Option 1 = relationship, Option 2 = fling. Please pick one." It's just not that simple. But I realized that I didn't properly explain to her why it isn't that simple. So now I'm gonna try and explain to her, and you, the different types of "relationships" one can go through (Remember there are no hard and fast rules to relationships, so you might not agree with most of this) :-


TYPE A - The Initiation

Okay this is generally one of your first relationships. Or relationships around the age 12-16. This is generally a beautiful experience where everything is all rosy and sweet. As it was happening, you would definitely call it a "serious relationship". At the time you might even call it love. But it wasn't, and you know that now because you've experienced so much more as far as relationships go. We have this tendency to think we are in love when we are not, primarily because most of us love the idea of being in love. Especially at that innocent age where we don't fully understand how ugly love can truly get. Yes, it can be beautiful when you experience it, but falling in "love" with every person you're with for more than a month is just not love. However sometimes the very first relationship can lead to true love. That's very rare though. Just a 16.7% likelihood of that happening. So what do we call this? It certainly wasn't a serious relationship and it wasnt a fling either. This is less a type of relationship and more a phase. This is "The Initiation".


TYPE B - The Teacher

No this is not some pornographic story arc I'm incorporating here. Not with the types of teachers we have. This is where you're still new to the whole world of dating. However you meet someone who knows a lot more than you. He/she has all the experience in the various facets of a relationship - physical, emotional, intangibles. So you let him/her pretty much take control, and you become the student and he/she is the teacher who you can occasionally abuse without worrying about detention. Type B normally does not last very long, but there is no way you can call it a fling. It just means so much more. Whoever has experienced Type B, will understand what I'm talking about. However the shorter this lasts the better, or else the control factor can get a bit much after a while.


TYPE C - The Fling
This is the simplest and least complicated of all forms of relationships. You both basically want each other for just two things - A good time with no strings attached and physical satisfaction. You're not required to constantly keep in touch and you're not supposed to care about the details of what the other is going through at that point of his/her life. Basically you have no responsibilities towards each other at all. This is the kind of relationship is the hot favorite among most of the guys. But even the fling has its pitfalls, because sometimes when you're havin a fling with someone, you discover that the person is actually quite likeable. This leads to confused feelings....and emotions. And once you start caring, it's not a fling anymore. Therefore try your best to get into a fling with someone not overly likeable. Like me. (DUh!)


TYPE D - The Friends With Benefits Okay this is a well known concept which has been played out in numerous different ways for centuries. It's considered to be a guys dream, and I totally understand why. But it's rarely, rarely ever that simple. It's very hard to find two people of the opposite sex, who want the exact same things from each other. More often than not, Type D starts off just great. Everything seems perfect. You're free to hook up with other people and yet you still always have your friend to talk to, and get it on with, depending on the mood. Sounds perfect doesn't it? But then it almost never lasts. Slowly the expectations from one side (and no it's not always the girl) increase leading to awkward situations, arguments and eventually the "I think we should just be friends because that meant a lot to me, and I'd never wanna ruin that" talk. Although sometimes Type D does lead to love, but only if there were prior such feelings in the first place. Lack of clarity from either or both of the participants is often the reason for the failure of Type D. Type D has another variety where you first hook up with someone, like him/her, but somehow never get serious and end up becoming friends with benefits. This is very rare but it can be much less complicated due to the lack of history between the two.


TYPE E - THE Relationship/ Love
Okay this is by far the most complicated, yet the simplest form of a relationship...sort of a paradox. One minute you'll feel like you two are the only people on earth and nothing outside of that matters, and the next you'll want to throw dangerous objects at each other. And I don't refer just to emotionally unstable people here. Love makes you emotionally unstable. But I guess that's the beauty of it. It's a place where you are never in total control but you trust each other enough to be absolutely comfortable with that. Now that was the complicated part. The simple part is the reason why you love the other person. You just do. You might have a number of reasons you could recite to him/her of why you love them(Refer to all teen movie endings where boy says how much he likes girls' eyes, smile, nails, armpit hair etc. in front of 1500 strangely attentive people), but at the end of the day its because...you just do. However, love can get very ugly because of the extremes in emotions, and the high expectations from one another. Not always are those expectations met and in this type of relationship, it just hurts a bit more. Some of the side effects of such relationships failing include purchase of large amounts of ice cream(Similar to munchies. Just not as funny), moping around, excessive whining, snappiness etc. On the other hand if it does work, it can be a beautiful, enlightening experience.


......Okay I think that's the gayest fucking paragraph I have ever written. I need to wash my face now.

There are many more types of relationships, but I feel a bit too much like Cosmopolitan right now to get into that.

Have a great day!

MUZIKK, SEUZIK...... HAI RABBA....!

So yesterday after my four days of autumn break, i went to college for my Players work for our street play competition coming up in IITK .... God how i hope it'll be ready by then! anyways... so for street play you need to compose songs and then you're supposed to compose music as well and thats how i thought about this post,i guess all of us are fond of music, so i do hope that this makes a good read......

Some played out stereotypes in the fascinating world of music:-

1) The first minute or so of all house songs must be merely a build up to the actual song i.e. a few beats here and there while you twiddle your thumbs and wait for the actual song to start.

2) All rap videos must have women with "phat" asses and humongous boobs;to this my friend said,"I like this stereotype. Although the ugly rappers with gold teeth totally gettin it on with them disturbs me...."

3) All boy bands must have a maximum of only two guys who actually can sing regardless of how many members are in the band. The others just move around in the background and try to look as gay as possible. Ahh... well girl bands aren't too far behind either!I'm currently negotiating with record labels to have my own girl band with 850 girls.

4) All current heavy rock songs must have a phase around the middle of the song where the music slows down only to slowly build back up again to a louder, angrier version. Again I don't mind this stereotype. (interesting sidenote - In an Incubus song called "Just a Phase" they actually fake the slow down to anger phase the first time. Just as you expect Brandon Boyd to scream his lungs out as the drums get louder and faster, he goes back to slow mode. But the next time the slow down phase is done, he ends up screaming the next verse. My ears were not prepared. I had never been faked by music before.)

5) All contemporary female artistes must have atleast one song about how they "don't need a man to be happy", followed by 15 songs about how they just want a steady relationship.

6) All rap artistes must talk about their bling, their hos and their rides for atleast 80% of their albums(Eminem reduces that percentage significantly. He rather personally insult his entire family. I like him.)

7) In rock videos, the camera concentrates on the lead singer and guiatrist for 96% of the video closely followed by the bassist at around 3.5%. The drummer gets a cool 0.5%. I want to be a drummer.

8) All R & B artistes must go over the top at a certain point in the song, basically singing something along the lines of "oooooo yehhhh ohhhhh babyyy ooooo oooo ahhhhhhhh yeh babyyyyy ooooo wooahhh woah...woahhhhhh".

9) All young female pop singers (Britney, Lohan, Duff, Aggy) must have one song/ballad where they make a heartrending attempt at explaining how they are "just like any other normal, average girl next door" even though they have about 10000000000$, two private planes and three jail sentences more than "normal girls". This is followed by an upbeat song where they sing something along the lines of "I'm not your average girl. I'm different". Please make up your mind.

That's all I have for now. Feel free to add some more stereotypes.

PS: Sorry for the ridiculous title......